We asked readers to channel their inner Carolyn Hax and answer this question. Some of the best responses are below.
Dear Carolyn: My mother-in-law is laid-back in ways that make spending time with her horrifically uncomfortable for me. At a recent family wedding, my husband and I got off a transcontinental flight to a slew of texts from her asking us to show up to an “informal drinks party” we hadn’t heard about beforehand. It was not an “informal drinks party”; it was the black-tie rehearsal dinner. To which we had not been invited. I wanted to die.
